When it makes sense to let kids lead
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“We’ve reached some kind of tipping point in terms of abundance, where what started out as a good thing…is actually contributing now to our suffering.” – psychologist Anna Lembke
BRAIN WAVES
Kidding Around. Every parent grapples with knowing when to help their kids do something and when to take a step back. A 2021 study found that kids benefit from figuring out things on their own. Researchers looked at kids aged 4 to 6 and had them work on a series of tasks alongside their parents. The tasks were meant to measure self-regulation or executive functioning skills – organization, staying focused, and so on. Then, researchers studied how often parents intervened versus followed their child’s lead. They found a relationship between high levels of parental involvement and childhood issues with self-regulation. “When parents let kids take the lead in their interactions, children practice self-regulation skills and build independence,” said lead researcher Jelena Obradović. The finding is not a criticism of parents, Obradović said, but a reminder that teachable moments sometimes require doing less – not more.
On Purpose. In a new University of Cambridge study, researchers found that, even more than happiness, something called “eudaimonia'' is a predictor of better academic performance among teens. In the study, students with high levels of eudaimonia scored significantly higher than their peers on various academic tests. The study defined eudaimonia as “functioning well,” but in an interview, author Tania Clarke elaborated: “It's about having the opportunity to understand what purpose in life feels like for you and having opportunities to cultivate your unique personal strengths and talents.” Other sources describe eudaimonia as “a combination of well-being, happiness and flourishing.” We’ve said it before: a little purpose goes a long way.
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The Path to Enough: This week, we bring you the second part of our conversation on the perils of too much pleasure. Psychiatrist Anna Lembke explains the neuroscience behind compulsive consumption, and how it alters our brains. She also shares techniques she’s learned from her patients to overcome the lure of addictive substances and behaviors.
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